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Would a relationship work if there are different religious beliefs?
Reader question: Do you guys think it would work? If for examples there's an atheist person with a catholic person? And not just dating, but for them to actually get married? How important do you think this is in a relationship?
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March 12th, 2010 - 13:26
There would be problems if they have kids.
March 12th, 2010 - 13:38
unless the only thing you guys talk about is religion
then of course it could work
-Kandy
March 12th, 2010 - 14:16
It is an absolute deal breaker.
March 12th, 2010 - 14:29
I think as long as both partners accept the others belief and don’t try to force their own belief onto them then it can work. Problems arise when one person cannot accept the other persons belief and try to change it.
March 12th, 2010 - 14:31
Been there, done that, in the end, just flat out a nasty situation, no peace.
March 12th, 2010 - 15:06
Depends how strongly the couple believes in their respective religion and if they are willing to be mature enough to over come their differences in the name of love
Corniest line ever.
March 12th, 2010 - 15:39
im muslim, n met a guy who’s father was muslim, but he wasnt, but he was interested in the faith, but wasnt muslim…. its very important…. for some, not 4 all
March 12th, 2010 - 16:28
If neither people involved aren’t uber religious/nonreligious, then it can work out just fine. It’s been working for me for almost three years.
March 12th, 2010 - 16:30
There would definitely be problems, like in Christianity we all try to avoid marrying outside our beliefs not just because it says so in Bible, it just ever works out especially when the kids come around.
March 12th, 2010 - 16:40
Yes, as long as each respects the other’s beliefs. Probably easier said than done, but I believe it can work. I also think that if they had kids, it would be important to raise the kids to be open-minded and let them make up their own mind about religion when they were old enough – once again, easier said than done but I think it’s possible.
March 12th, 2010 - 17:34
Atheist and Catholics are very similar actually. I wouldn’t worry.
March 12th, 2010 - 18:09
Amos 3:3
3Can two walk together, except they be agreed?
(KJV)
March 12th, 2010 - 18:59
if the male part is non religious…sex will be an issue.
March 12th, 2010 - 19:07
No not at all.
March 12th, 2010 - 19:31
It could work, as long as they avoid arguments over religion
If one of them is a debater, though…
March 12th, 2010 - 19:59
For a Christian, dating a non-Christian is unwise, and marrying one is not an option. Second Corinthians 6:14 (KJV) tells us not to be “unequally yoked” with an unbeliever. The imagery is of two incompatible oxen sharing the same yoke. Instead of working together to pull the load, they would be working against each other. While this passage does not specifically mention marriage, it definitely has implications for marriage. The passage goes on to say that there is no harmony between Christ and Belial (Satan). There can be no spiritual harmony in a marriage between a Christian and a non-Christian. Paul goes on to remind believers that they are the dwelling place of the Holy Spirit, who inhabits their hearts at salvation (2 Corinthians 6:15-17). Because of that, they are to be separate from the world—in the world, but not of the world—and nowhere is that more important than in life’s most intimate relationship—marriage.
The Bible also says, “Do not be misled: ‘Bad company corrupts good character’ (1 Corinthians 15:33). Having any kind of intimate relationship with an unbeliever can quickly turn into something that is a hindrance to your walk with Christ. We are called to evangelize the lost, not be intimate with them. There is nothing wrong with building quality friendships with unbelievers, but that is as far as it should go. If you were dating an unbeliever, what would honestly be your priority, romance or winning a soul for Christ? If you were married to an unbeliever, how would the two of you cultivate a spiritual intimacy in your marriage? How could a quality marriage be built and maintained if you disagree on the most crucial issue in the universe—the Lord Jesus Christ?
March 12th, 2010 - 20:09
No.
For those who have been redeemed by the Blood of Christ, Scripture is quite clear on this subject:
2 Corinthians 6:14 (New International Version)
14Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?
March 12th, 2010 - 21:08
Very important is the believer is devout.
Was married to a Catholic and it was a nightmare from start to finish. We agreed on nothing, including the fact that he was totally against birth control, condoms, and tried to have me Woops I mean converted.
If they are a little more laid back then fine, but please discuss this at length before even going there.
Forewarned is the best way to go.
March 12th, 2010 - 21:51
“What concord hath Christ with Belial?”
March 12th, 2010 - 22:05
a terrible match,because it is indicative of other differences. The realtionship cannot possibly work
March 12th, 2010 - 22:20
It might work only if religion is not very important to either party, and continues to be unimportant. It is one more area of disagreement, and certainly a couple doesn’t need one more.
March 12th, 2010 - 22:34
No. The bible tells us that we should not beunequallyy yoked together with unbelievers. You’re setting yourself up for a fall if you do. There are those who pretend to be believers just to get your blessings and then they chrush everything you try to accomplish. If they do not confess that Christ is Lord ( in action not just word) you will suffer greatly, if you do not fallow this principal Marriage is hard enough with believers because of the differences and weaknesses of the flesh, don’t add to this. Light has no communion with darkness. Let not the two become one flesh.
God Bless
March 12th, 2010 - 23:16
I agree with BFRACT. My sister and her ex have kids, and he’s an atheist, she’s christian. But both the kids are christian, 3 and 5, so that could change…
March 13th, 2010 - 00:13
Depends on the people.
My husband was an atheist when we started dating, and I was a non-religious theist. Now, I’m a Christian and he’s a non-religious theist. We get along fine. It just takes compromise, and a willingness to respect one another’s opinions. There might be issues when/if we have kids, but we’ll cross that bridge when we get to it.
Relationships are easier when both partners share the same religious beliefs, but it can still work even if they don’t.
March 13th, 2010 - 01:01
From personal experience…no
My last boyfriend was not a Christian going into the relationship, so it was a mistake for me to agree to him. But then through it, he said he became one but he never told me so it raised suspicions…
What made me end it was him telling me that my faith is all in my head and it’s just myself telling me everything will be okay.
It won’t work in the end. It still hurts when I think about it.
My relationship with Christ is extremely important to me. So now I look for a good Christian guy who loves the Lord more than he will ever love me.
March 13th, 2010 - 01:41
yes it can
March 13th, 2010 - 02:10
It will work fine, if both are shallow & decide to never to have intelligent conversation…on what matters most to each.
March 13th, 2010 - 02:14
There is a possibility, but it would be difficult and cause problems.
The Bible tells us not to become unevenly yoked.
If both partners worship and believe the same…there’s a small likelihood of major problems.
March 13th, 2010 - 03:11
I think whether a relationship works or not is up to the individuals involved…and has nothing to do with religion.
Just a data point for you: I’m an atheist, my wife is catholic. We’ve been married 16 great years, have two wonderful kids, never cheated on each other or even had a single argument where we raised our voices at each other all that time.
So yeah, it can work — but like I said, it’s up to the individuals. If one of the two is “adamant” about their point of view, to the point of trying to force it on the other, it’ll never work.
Peace.
March 13th, 2010 - 03:22
Stick around, you see this question all the time on here. The diehards on both sides (but especially christians with their “be ye not yoked with unbelievers”, they’re the most adamant) say no, but then you get the people on here that have been happily married to people of different faiths for years. I would hope, at least, that if religion is going to be an issue, they would find that out while still dating. And if you do want to marry, settle ahead of time which of your religions (if any) you would want the kids to be raised in.
Just don’t count on any “love conquers all” bullpucky to gloss over any potential problems.
March 13th, 2010 - 04:00
I’m an atheist married to a devout Christian. We’ve got 3 girls and my oldest is 6. Even though we have very different views concerning theology and science, our core values are very similar.
My husband Mark knows I am a good person, wife, and mother, and that is what matters most. When he and I started discussing marriage the subject of my atheism came up and I asked Mark if he thought it would be a problem. Mark said, “Just because you marry someone who is religious it doesn’t mean that they are good. I’d rather marry someone that I know is good than marry a person who just pretends to be. I think the biggest problem we are going to have is with our family and friends, but once they get to know you they will love you as I do.”
March 13th, 2010 - 04:41
In some cases, it would work although with a pretty big problems of adjustments and levelheadedness. Most of the time, it would not work because of many contrasting and conflicting beliefs, especially when children are already involved when both parents want their kids to follow their religious beliefs. It is very hard indeed.