What relationship factors or considerations might be influencing her problems?
Reader question: Jennifer is a 29-year-old administrative assistant married to Antonio, an Italian engineer, whom Jennifer met four years earlier while on a business trip for her marketing company. The couple now lives in Nebraska, where Antonio works for the county's transportation department and Jennifer commutes an hour each way to her marketing office. They have been trying to start a family for over a year. Eight months ago, Jennifer miscarried in her second month of pregnancy. Antonio's parents love Jennifer and often ask her if she is expecting again, hoping to encourage her to focus on her next baby. Jennifer's mother passed away two years ago and her father's health is rapidly deteriorating. Jennifer faces the probability of placing her father in a skilled nursing care facility within the next few months, against his wishes.
At work, Jennifer runs a tight ship. She is organized and prepares lists to assure that everything is done according to schedule. Everyone counts on Jennifer and she takes pride in never letting people down.
Jennifer has visited her physician numerous times in the last six months, complaining of headaches, backaches, and indigestion. Jennifer insists that she is happy and is not feeling stressed, yet she finds herself making more mistakes at work, unable to keep up with housework, and feeling tired and overwhelmed; she has begun to question her effectiveness as an employee, wife, daughter, and potential mother. Her pains seem to be increasing, but her doctor cannot find a physical cause for her discomfort.
What relationship factors or considerations might be influencing Jennifer’s problems?
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March 10th, 2010 - 02:08
-her in-laws often asking if she is expecting again
-her father’s health
-her mother’s recent death
-her perfectionism at work
-her statement that she feels tires and overwhelmed
She is a perfectionist whose plate is already MORE than full. Part of her knows that a pregnancy at this time would mean that perfectionism was totally impossibly. she would have to focus on the child, not work so hard, not try to be a perfectionist. she may say she is happy, but she is worried, stressed, and does not think this is the right time for a child.
March 10th, 2010 - 02:56
- death of baby
- mothers death
- fathers poor health and forcing him into a nursing home
- sounds like she is lonely with few social/emotional supports
- pressure to get pregnant again when she may still be grieving for her other baby who died
-long commute to work
-”tired, overwhelmed”
- shes not focused at work and making careless mistakes…perhaps shes depressed.
-Self-esteem is down if shes questioning her effectiveness as an employee, wife, daughter (especially since her father will be angry/depressed that he must move and that she is to busy to take care of him full time