1. 

   Lonetta JP
   December 29th, 2009 - 18:10

   Gottman bases his information on solid research and makes it very reader friendly. I think this is a good book for couples to read aloud together, using the concepts as a springboard for meaningful conversations. Fully five star.
   Rating: 1 / 5
2. 

   Robert Bruce & Lee Ann Kirby
   December 29th, 2009 - 18:43

   Truly a great book from a great author. From the authors of “Creating Your Own Way To Happiness.”
   Rating: 5 / 5
3. 

   Ginger
   December 29th, 2009 - 18:54

   I bought this for my 23 year old daughter who had broken up with her boyfriend. After reading this book she realized she had made a mistake and they are seeing each other again and happier.
   Rating: 5 / 5
4. 

   Rebecca Johnson
   December 29th, 2009 - 21:00

   “10 Lessons to Transform Your Marriage” is based on the interactions of ten couples who are concerned about their marriages and are willing to do what it takes to create more harmony and love in their relationship. This book shows ineffective and effective communications as recorded in a “love lab” set up by John and Julie Gottman.

   Each chapter begins with some background about the couple and then proceeds into a section where the couple has a real-life conversation. This discloses the main problems in the relationship and then John and Julie Gottman give their analysis on the situation.

   Here are the situations these couples find themselves in:

   Mike and Maria need to lose weight and find time to nurture their relationship
   
   Candace and David are recovering from David’s affair and Candace wants to know she is #1
   
   Sam is a workaholic and Katie wants him to spend more time with her
   
   Marilyn and Bob have developed communication problems since Bob has been retired
   
   Steve and Denise want to go on a dream vacation to India
   
   Kevin and Suzanne have financial problems and Kevin is depressed
   
   Craig and Beth are caught up in an argument about dividing up household chores
   
   Jack and Maureen feel their relationship lacks passion
   
   Ron and Melissa don’t have time for each other
   
   Terry wants stability while Amanda lives for excitement

   Do you see any similarities in the problems these couples are facing and the ones you have in your own marriage? By reading this book you will realize what is detrimental to your relationship and what to do to solve recurring problems.

   I like that all of these couples were willing to make changes so they had more effective communication. It really was as simple as developing some new communication skills.

   If you have noticed an increase in criticism, defensiveness, contempt or stonewalling you could be headed for divorce. This book could help you analyze your own relationship and find creative solutions so you can remain married to the person you love.

   Here are some additional books I’ve found helpful in my own marriage:

   Cracking the Communication Code: The Secret to Speaking Your Mate’s Language

   How to Get Your Husband to Talk to You

   The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate

   Love & Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs

   For Women Only: What You Need to Know about the Inner Lives of Men

   Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus: The Classic Guide to Understanding the Opposite Sex

   The Love Dare

   The Secrets of Happily Married Women: How to Get More Out of Your Relationship by Doing Less

   7 Stages of Marriage: Laughter, Intimacy and Passion Today, Tomorrow, Forever

   The Secrets of Happily Married Men: Eight Ways to Win Your Wife’s Heart Forever

   ~The Rebecca Review
   
   Rating: 3 / 5
5. 

   Work of Life
   December 29th, 2009 - 21:10

   More great marriage advice from the Gottman researchers at the famous love labs. They did the research, now you get the results. This isn’t just good “advice”, it’s what is proven to work and what is proven to not work. None of the other “relationship experts” have done the kind of research that the Gottman crew have done. Great stuff!
   Rating: 5 / 5

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