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21Mar/105
How long in a new relationship before explaining a vasectomy from past?
Reader question: In marriage, at 3 children, we decided (I decided) to get snipped. Since then, the marriage ended in 05 and I tend to date younger woman that are still of child baring age. I feel bad not telling them up front, but what kind of beginning to any relationship is that anyways?
When to tell without becoming a liar of omission?
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March 21st, 2010 - 13:48
there’s no shame in your method of birth control. always discuss sexual history before your first time having sex.
March 21st, 2010 - 13:52
You don’t have to tell them on the first date. But, when you start a sexual relationship with them it would be appropriate to bring it up. Don’t make it an issue until it is one.
March 21st, 2010 - 14:25
Tell before proposing marriage, when the relationship is more than just a few dates. Don’t tell on date #1 or 2 unless she asks.
If you date women who already have children, it won’t be such a problem. A younger woman will likely want children and may want you to get it reversed.
Joy to you!
March 21st, 2010 - 15:22
When you get to know each other better and you wind up talking about your previous marriage and children.
March 21st, 2010 - 15:45
I have been were you are only I never had children. I usually told new partners about my vasectomy early in the relationship.
I do not feel you have any obligation to divulge your vasectomy. If I could go back in time, I would never say a word. I would do this because when I was dating women under 30 it was too much of a handicap.
The good news is most women over 30 will not have a problem with your vasectomy.